She hurt me quite unconsciously, and she didn't even know that I was hurt by her innocent words. In fact for some others, what she had written to me was nothing worthing getting hurt for. Such innocuous words had pained me deep, and I could not turn to her with a smile, leave alone tell her how I was hurt.
So I thought it better to keep it to myself and let her know when the time was ripe how her innocent words had affected me. And during the four days following the hurt, I had kept my messages to her quite formal, sometimes doing it quite very much like a routine. She should have taken note of a change in my way of addressing her, writing to her, and she too had felt very much hurt by my passivity and indifference.
When at last she realised that something was wrong somewhere in our relationship that she dared to ask me if she had done something to disturb the peace in between us, and I too dared to pour out my pain of being hurt by her words.
It was the marriage of two hurt feelings... as if two dark clouds coming and banging on to each other, and then there was peace... I stretched out my hand with the silent syllables of "shalome" or Shanti and she stretched out with "gugma"...
Is it not possible to get out of hurt feelings? Of course we can, if only we begin to look into ourselves and see that we are more often than not sinners, and not much of saints we thought we were. But God is there for sinners, and as a sinner I feel privileged to stretch out my hand and say softly "shalome".
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